My methods and strategies
“Watch your thoughts, they become words.
Watch your words, they become actions.
Watch your actions, they become habits.
Watch your habits, they become character.
Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.”
Above and beyond any other strategy is awareness. Only through stillness or mindfulness, by observing your own thoughts, can you truly get to know yourself, and create real change.
What happens if you sit down in a quiet space, close your eyes, and just let yourself be?
Most likely, you’ll be met by a rush of thoughts. You’ll notice they appear on their own, without your control. And as you try to focus on your breath, your attention will be pulled away, again and again, by thoughts and emotions that wants your focus.
Your thoughts are constantly trying to steal your attention and convince you they’re important. The main reason why this is problematic to your wellbeing is that your brain is wired with a negativity bias: a survival mechanism that evolved to keep you alert to danger, not to make you happy. It’s designed to solve problems, scan for threats, and keep you alive, comfortable, accepted, and out of risk.
It’s not naturally focused on what fulfills you or helps you grow. That’s why it tends to highlight what’s wrong, what could go wrong, what you lack or fear, while rarely bringing your strengths, achievements, or joy into focus.
in today’s world, these outdated protection systems can become the threat. They fuel unnecessary anxiety, self-doubt, depression, and keep us small, locked in loops that prevent us from growing into our full potential.
While many people see meditation as a way to relax and release stress, the most important transformative power of meditation is to discover the nature of your mind. Meditation is to become aware and see the raw truth of experience. Only from that self realization can you start working on your thoughts and change the subconscious and biological programming.
To change the programming that runs on autopilot, I have several practices, tools and frameworks I find helpful, but there is no one size fits all. To uncover your most prominent survival mechanisms and limiting beliefs, there are several practical steps of different questions you can go through in coaching sessions.
There are also methods/sets of questions that can help you rewire and break the patterns of these beliefs that manifests into thoughts, fears or doubts.
In addition to that, many can have great effect from personalized guided meditations, subliminals and affirmations with brainwave entrainment for induction of alpha waves, or nature sounds.
Frameworks for setting and acheiving goals
The WOOP Framework
Of all the established goal-setting models, WOOP is my personal favorite. It stands for Wish, Outcome, Obstacle, Plan.
Most frameworks emphasize concrete, time-bound, and measurable goals, and while that's important, it's not always what we need in the early stages, especially when the goal requires deep personal growth or transformation.
Even with a clear plan and defined outcome, we still have to face the inner resistance; the survival mechanisms, unconscious beliefs, and emotional habits that hold us back. WOOP acknowledges this. It gives space for both the essence of the desire and the reality of the blockages.
Working with WOOP entails visualizing your desired outcome, not just the result, but how it would feel. Then, you face what’s in the way. Not just external barriers, but the internal patterns that sabotage or stall your progress.
Finally, the Plan is your grounded commitment. A small, doable action or shift you choose every time the obstacle shows up.
The Trap of Manifesting Through Positive Thinking and the Law of Attraction
Positive thinking can support emotional wellbeing and helpful behaviors. But research shows that focusing too much on visualizing a desired outcome can sometimes have the opposite effect.
When you imagine success in vivid detail, the brain and body can respond as if it’s already happened. This reduces the drive to act. The emotional reward comes too early, and motivation drops.
Some Law of Attraction teachings encourage you to believe your goal is already achieved. But this can lead to passivity. On a deeper level, the mind assumes there’s no longer anything to work toward.
A more grounded approach is to connect with the version of yourself you want to become. Let that shape how you act and choose — without skipping the steps needed to grow.
Personal change is not about pretending or forcing belief. It’s about returning to what’s true when fear, assumptions, and pressure are removed.
Tarot and the W.O.R.L.D Framework
The WORLD goal setting framework is one I’ve developed myself, inspired by the WOOP framework, and the World card of the major arcanas in Tarot.
In tarot the World represents the final part of the Fools journey through the secrets and discoveries of life. It represents completion, the point where you’ve learned the most important lessons, been through the necessary challenges and discovered the most important parts of who you are and life itself. In other words, it is a place of fulfillment, ultimate growth and potential.
Often in life though, we end up taking someone else’s journey, walking a path based on other peoples expectations, living someone else’s dream, supporting someone else’s ambition and expressing someone else’s convictions, often without even without knowing we mistook them for our own.
I don’t belive human society gains from this. And I don’t buy into the notion that staying small and underutilized, or repressing dreams or passions are humble or based in gratitude. If you have the privilege of freedom to choose in life, and to learn who you are, how could you honor it any better than to actually use it?
The W.O.R.L.D framework is designed to help you connect, beyond the rational mind, to what you really want. It may sound simple, but most people don’t actually know what they want until they make an intention of finding out. They only know what they don’t want which then takes most of their focus and energy, resulting in them having more of the things they don’t want.
My framework is not meant as a discipline tool for success, but to help you find aligned success, tuned to your unique gifts, interests, perspectives, experiences, skills and strengths. It is also designed to surface the resistance, self-sabotage, patterns and fears hiding in your subconscious, as well as your leverages, and what you need to take action on, to make progress.
Tarot
I see tarot as a mirror.
But this mirror reflects back more than what we see in a normal mirror.
It digs into our own mind. It brings in new perspectives we never thought of. It shows us our potential and our roadblocks.
And precisely because you do not get to choose or predict what the cards will show you, or what you’ll see, it opens you up without preconceptions. You do not get to choose the conversation it invites you to. And you can not control how you will start to associate, feel or reflect.
Unlike talking to an Ai, the answers can only be found through your own interpretation, it’s never handed to you on a silver plate. And so it forces you to think, to question, to reflect and to take notice. And from that place, powerful insights often breaks through.
The image most people have of this tradition is a fortune telling psychic veiled old woman , sitting in a candle lit dark room with a crystal bowl and her deck ready to reveal what is going to happen in your physical world. And yes, many people still use the cards in this way.
But this is a small and incomplete view of the use and power of tarot. As Carl Jung himself said:
"They are psychological images, symbols with which one plays, as the unconscious seems to play with its contents. They combine in certain ways, and the different combinations correspond to the playful development of mankind."
And also, it’s a lot of fun.