My methods and strategies
“Watch your thoughts, they become words.
Watch your words, they become actions.
Watch your actions, they become habits.
Watch your habits, they become character.
Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.”
Above and beyond any other strategy is awareness. Only through stillness or mindfulness, by observing your own thoughts, can you truly get to know yourself, and create real change.
What happens if you sit down in a quiet space, close your eyes, and just let yourself be?
Most likely, you’ll be met by a rush of thoughts. You’ll notice they appear on their own, without your control. And as you try to focus on your breath, your attention will be pulled away, again and again, by thoughts and emotions that wants your focus.
Your thoughts are constantly trying to steal your attention and convince you they’re important. The main reason why this is problematic to your wellbeing is that your brain is wired with a negativity bias: a survival mechanism that evolved to keep you alert to danger, not to make you happy. It’s designed to solve problems, scan for threats, and keep you alive, comfortable, accepted, and out of risk.
It’s not naturally focused on what fulfills you or helps you grow. That’s why it tends to highlight what’s wrong, what could go wrong, what you lack or fear, while rarely bringing your strengths, achievements, or joy into focus.
in today’s world, these outdated protection systems can become the threat. They fuel unnecessary anxiety, self-doubt, depression, and keep us small, locked in loops that prevent us from growing into our full potential.
While many people see meditation as a way to relax and release stress, the most important transformative power of meditation is to discover the nature of your mind. Meditation is to become aware and see the raw truth of experience. Only from that self realization can you start working on your thoughts and change the subconscious and biological programming.
To change the programming that runs on autopilot, I have several practices, tools and frameworks I find helpful, but there is no one size fits all. To uncover your most prominent survival mechanisms and limiting beliefs, there are several practical steps of different questions you can go through in coaching sessions.
There are also methods/sets of questions that can help you rewire and break the patterns of these beliefs that manifests into thoughts, fears or doubts.
In addition to that, many can have great effect from personalized guided meditations, subliminals and affirmations with brainwave entrainment for induction of alpha waves, or nature sounds.
Frameworks for setting and acheiving goals
The WOOP Framework
Of all the established goal-setting models, WOOP is my personal favorite. It stands for Wish, Outcome, Obstacle, Plan.
Most frameworks emphasize concrete, time-bound, and measurable goals, and while that's important, it's not always what we need in the early stages, especially when the goal requires deep personal growth or transformation.
Even with a clear plan and defined outcome, we still have to face the inner resistance; the survival mechanisms, unconscious beliefs, and emotional habits that hold us back. WOOP acknowledges this. It gives space for both the essence of the desire and the reality of the blockages.
Working with WOOP entails visualizing your desired outcome, not just the result, but how it would feel. Then, you face what’s in the way. Not just external barriers, but the internal patterns that sabotage or stall your progress.
Finally, the Plan is your grounded commitment. A small, doable action or shift you choose every time the obstacle shows up.
The Trap of Manifesting Through Positive Thinking and the Law of Attraction
Positive thinking can support emotional wellbeing and helpful behaviors. But research shows that focusing too much on visualizing a desired outcome can sometimes have the opposite effect.
When you imagine success in vivid detail, the brain and body can respond as if it’s already happened. This reduces the drive to act. The emotional reward comes too early, and motivation drops.
Some Law of Attraction teachings encourage you to believe your goal is already achieved. But this can lead to passivity. On a deeper level, the mind assumes there’s no longer anything to work toward.
A more grounded approach is to connect with the version of yourself you want to become. Let that shape how you act and choose — without skipping the steps needed to grow.
Personal change is not about pretending or forcing belief. It’s about returning to what’s true when fear, assumptions, and pressure are removed.